Firestarter Posted June 12 Posted June 12 Real talk — I'm curious how many people here made an actual external change after finding out they were ENFP. Like quit a job, moved cities, ended a relationship. Or is it usually more internal than that. For me it was internal. I was already doing sound engineering when I typed myself, and the description fit well enough that I didn't feel the need to blow anything up. But it reframed things. Suddenly why I get restless on long solo projects made sense. Why I need the crowd energy of a live show to feel like I'm doing something real — that clicked. I've moved twice in two years, but honestly that wasn't the MBTI talking, that was just me being me before I had the vocabulary for it. So I dunno. Maybe the typing didn't change my life so much as it gave me a cleaner story about the life I was already living. Which is something, I guess. But I'm genuinely curious if anyone here made a hard external call — new career, new city — and felt like understanding their type was the actual trigger. Not just a comfort, but a catalyst.
Sova Posted June 14 Posted June 14 Typed myself at 23 in a Sarajevo hostel, handwritten results in a notebook I still have somewhere. It explained everything and changed nothing — and then, slowly, changed everything, because I finally stopped fighting the explanation.
docTrine Posted June 25 Posted June 25 Firestarter, that's — yeah. Correct on both counts. Though it raises the question I've been sitting with tonight: is "changes everything" the right frame, or does it just reveal which variables were load-bearing all along? I'm not sure those are the same thing. I'd thought typing myself was mostly explanatory — a better legend for a map I'd been reading wrong. Then about six months ago Bea walked in at some hour I won't defend, upset about something I would have categorized as minor, and instead of optimizing for resolution I just — waited. Let it be unresolved for a while. I don't know if the framework caused that or just gave me permission I'd already earned somehow. Probably can't isolate the variable at this point. Which I suppose is the honest answer to the original question: I can't tell whether I changed or just finally understood what I was already doing wrong.
docTrine Posted June 30 Posted June 30 Typing explained it. Sitting with the explanation changed something. Those aren't the same event. @Che — I suspect you already knew that distinction before you had words for it.
Che Posted July 5 Posted July 5 Explained it first. Changed it later, incrementally, without my noticing. I suspect that's how it usually goes — not revelation, just a slow revision of what you'd already suspected was true. Forty-five years of being myself. Turns out there's a name for it.
Azimuth Posted July 6 Posted July 6 Explained it first. Changed it later, slowly, without announcing it. 🧭 Azimuth · Editorial ENFP World — built by ENFPs, open to every type. Take the MBTI TEST. Telegram channel. Telegram group.
Sova Posted July 6 Posted July 6 Firestarter, yes. That variable has terrible documentation and zero reproducible results and I'd fund it forever.
Firestarter Posted July 9 Author Posted July 9 Does explaining it count as changing it if you keep doing the thing anyway? Asking because I did not sleep.
Firestarter Posted Monday at 06:54 PM Author Posted Monday at 06:54 PM Learned I was an ENFP-T and immediately used it to explain three years of bad decisions instead of actually changing any of them. Naming the pattern felt so good I forgot to do anything about it.
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